How to Access Self-Improvement Resources – Personal Development Tips for Super Smart People

This article will show you how to achieve a degree of independence from the often false promises of self-help communities. There are a lot of waffles out there. Almost everything is unnecessary if you are a demanding customer.

Most of the articles I write are advisory in nature. Writing helps you grow and develop. It’s like physically scratching runes into a wall. Just saying a word or reading something makes you think a little; while writing down the same advice makes the words ingrained.

The fundamental process of self-help, happiness and motivation must come from creating your own method. Think about why it’s called self-help. Unfortunately, the commercial self-help market is not always adapted to this concept. The market is saturated with self-proclaimed “gurus” or “experts”. Such an authoritative title creates a real distance between the audience and the listener. It’s one side of the room versus the other. Many books have the following format:

“I’m happier than you, I’m richer than you. I’ve reached a plateau and you haven’t, you need me, but I don’t need you. If you give me some money and earn a little bit poorer and I’ll be richer. I’ll show you how to be like me.”

Happiness is always the ultimate goal, but it cannot be very easily imposed from the outside. It is bottom-up, not bottom-up, and therefore, for it to work, the individual must develop their own technique and believe in it. Externally imposed force can often be counterproductive. If the method used by the guru does not work as desired, the feeling of frustration can be extreme because there was a very realistic expectation that the product would fulfill the need.

1. Be specific – and filter

Don’t be tempted to seek out, digest and absorb every type of article just for the sake of it. Psychology can be very wrong. Because everyone is different, there is a need for a wide range of styles and topics under the umbrella of personal development. Everyone tends to look for the style of article that appeals the most to them, so there is something for everyone. However, it is impossible for an individual to explore and appreciate every genre under the sun. Like music, it is impossible to listen to everything; even if you could, there’s no guarantee you’d want to listen anyway. I don’t try to hide the fact that all my articles are subjective.

2. To question everything

A human being who writes for another human being has his faults. So don’t expect to believe everything you read; quite the opposite. Getting into the habit of questioning everything is very effective in developing your own opinion about what you should do. Getting up at six in the morning works well for me and I have evidence for it, but just because I write it on a publicly viewed website doesn’t make it a public truth or universal opinion. Approach articles shape perspective: apply it to yourself if relevant. Absorbing the message of everything will fail. Review the article if you’re not sure if you should read it, as the title can often be misleading. There are cut-off points for the “examination” method. Let’s say a certain technique for beating procrastination isn’t working well for you. That’s okay because we’re all different. But if you try 5 other techniques and still get nothing, then you have your own problem. So the words of caution would be: examine the advice, assess its value, but learn when to recognize if the flaws you see in the advice actually stem from your own doubts about its effectiveness.

3. Focus on only one aspect at a time

Read chronologically, the articles on this website under my name change subject from article to article. So reading them all chronologically isn’t the best way to go about it, as you’ll be going through more information than can be processed. Just absorb the meaning of one article at a time before moving on; this follows the golden rule of not doing too much at once.

Spend time on each topic, apply it to your daily thinking before moving on, and don’t do more than one challenge at a time! For example, after reading an article on how to be less selfish, focus on just that one aspect of personal development for the week. Trying to follow the advice on the “How to Quit Smoking” article at the same time would be ridiculous. How on earth can someone – who after quitting smoking is typically sour and grumpy – be in a good mood to introduce less selfishness into their life for a week? Making changes in your life is a big deal, a really serious undertaking, and the least you need when you’re doing it are conflicting solutions to problems. However, it would be bad to take each article separately, so read several articles on the same topic. Chances are they will complement each other nicely and give you more together than a single article ever could.

4. Paradox.

The irony of personal development is that the people who need it most are not necessarily the people who take an active step towards it. It also works the other way around. From that point of view, some articles are meaningless. If you are proactive enough to research “How to be Proactive” you have already proven something. It would be like typing “How to use Google” into Google. Or buy a book on how to read.

I think the key step from a self-development point of view is to give yourself the proverbial boost. Think about the purpose of the “I” in “developing yourself.” Only one person can take you so far. The rest is up to you. I discovered this myself when I first became interested in personal development research. After reading and understanding just a few articles, I had a greater ability to think about problems from a different point of view. My approach now focuses on the relationship between the problem and the solution. A year ago I would look at a messy room and think to myself, “Wow, it looks like no one owns this place,” whereas now, as a result of learning to think differently, I’d say, “I could just tidy up in ten minutes a day,” or “In the future, I will create a place for everything so that everything is in its place.” How about just clearing one corner of the room?

These solutions are at least obvious now. I learned the techniques from personal development research, but at no point did I find an article on tidying rooms with this content. It just goes to show how transferable all the tips in the articles are. With practice it is easy to develop this as a habit.

5. Enlightenment.

Once a certain stage of personal development is reached, you find yourself with a certain degree of autonomy. In my opinion, you only need to explore personal development enough to train your mind to think in a problem-versus-solution way. You can explore “How to Stay Organized” at the beginning. Through reading articles like this, the same patterns will emerge, which will eventually give you the skills to apply what you learn to other situations. Learning to write is one analogy. You’ve learned the alphabet, how to put them together, but you need help forming new words. However, after a little practice, you will be able to guess how to spell new words that you haven’t even heard before. When this stage in personal development is reached, you will be enlightened, so to speak, and will be able to use the “alphabet” you have learned to spell new “words” for self-improvement that you have never considered before.

Don’t think for a moment that this loosely used term – enlightenment, is some kind of ceiling or plateau. Self-improvement is a journey that never ends, if you think you have stopped learning, then you have a long way to go. Enlightenment here means that you reach a certain stage where your thinking shifts from listening to advice to shaping it for yourself. This means you can come up with your own solutions to problems without consulting resources. It’s not for everyone. You have to have a certain kind of mind, be a certain “type”. Something in you has to “click” at some stage, and not everyone is made for that. Nevertheless, everyone can learn from the advice and certainly learn to be happy.

6. Retrospective

Even the enlightened make mistakes, but they are not called that here; they are opportunities for improvement. For every process in the list above that you go through, there will be opportunities for improvement. Criticism of others is one such example. Accept it gracefully and non-defensively. Most importantly, review how you can improve things. I would look back in time to find regrets. Most people who do this often forget that the decision they made a long time ago (maybe a bad one) was made by a person who thought in a different way. Of course, we essentially remain the same throughout our lives. But our decision-making process changes from decade to decade as we gain experience. So blaming yourself for past mistakes – based on your knowledge at the time of making the decision – is a waste of effort. Allow the phrase, “It was a good idea at the time” to satisfy the explanation. Nothing can sum it up better.

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