Many people have grandiose goals and things they want to achieve in life. However, few seem to achieve these goals. While working with people, I often wonder why this is so? Why do some go out and achieve goals and dreams beyond their wildest imaginations, while others just scrape by for a living? From everything I’ve seen it boils down to a few simple principles:
- Some people are defeated before they even start.
- The primary reason for this defeat is that their mind keeps them in a box about what they can or cannot do.
- Some will try to give up at the first obstacle, saying that they knew it wouldn’t work.
- The real question is what is your excuse?
I remember hearing Les Brown speak many years ago. He talked about his past, where he came from and all the obstacles he faced. Despite all that, he became an extremely successful national and international speaker. What I learned from listening to Les is that you have to be HUNGRY. You have to want it, and want it so badly that you can do more than just taste it. It must become a burning desire so deep within you that it consumes and motivates you.
How many of your goals create such a burning desire? It’s easy to just want something. It’s more work to go out there and do whatever it takes to get it. There are so many clichés about those who go forward against all odds and achieve the seemingly impossible. How did they do it? Why don’t you and I do the same thing?
There are many courses, programs and books that praise self-development or self-growth. Many of them are very sincere attempts by the authors to try to help people achieve their goals. However, there are some subtle issues as to why this doesn’t work so well. You see that everyone is different, everyone has a different story, we all have different motivations and priorities.
Many people read a book and before they finish they find another book that claims to do it faster, easier and with less effort. At the end of the day, few people take what they have learned and apply it to their lives. They are building their library for self-development and self-help, and the books are just gathering dust. Instead, they should be read, re-read, torn and tattered because they are carried everywhere and literally devoured by the reader.
Another ingredient that is also critically important in your personal growth process is personal honesty. If we make excuses or if we let doubt and conditioning from the past into our minds, we will fail before we even begin.
The best thing you can do is encourage us to self-evaluate. Sit in a quiet place and start writing about yourself. Your fears, what your parents told you, your friends and teachers, all the beliefs you accepted while growing up. As you do this, you may actually go back to the moment when something was said to you.
I remember that in the fifth grade, Sr. Marija Kerubina told me that I was stupid in mathematics. Well, it took me until the twelfth grade to prove her wrong because I have both a bachelor’s degree and a master’s degree in electrical engineering. I think I proved to myself that I’m not stupid in math. This is another key point: you heal for yourself, not for anyone else.
What have you gotten yourself into that is holding you back from reaching your full potential? Isn’t it time to ditch those programs and old stories? The fact is that we are limitless. We are only limited by our own beliefs and conditioning. So the choice is yours. Make a decision to improve yourself and successfully change your life.