Do you know that a rebound relationship can work in your favor. If you have broken up with your girlfriend and she is in dating someone else, you may be wondering how you can get her back now that she is in a rebound relationship..
I faced a similar predicament several years back, here is what I gathered from that experience. With the right attitude and actions, your girlfriend being in a relationship can actually play in your favor.
I was going through a difficult period in my relationship. I did not feel accomplished in it so I decided to take a break from the relationship. I had found someone else who to me was a better companion and I felt satisfied in my new relationship.
But the truth is that, the reason I so quickly got into the rebound relationship was because the pain of the beak up was unbearable. I did not know it would be so hard to get over my ex, so I figured that if I started dating again, I could minimize the emotions of breaking up, it would be easier to forget him and move on.
However, since my relationship with my ex had been founded on true love, it was not easy dealing with the pain of losing him. I could not help comparing my new boyfriend to my ex. Suddenly I started missing my ex so much and the issues that led to our break up didn’t seem to matter any more. All that was going through my mind was the memories of the good times we had shared. I wondered how we had gotten to the point of breaking up when our relationship had been so great.
I felt bad that I was being unfair to the new guy. Yes he was a great guy. He was kind and funny and he cared about me, but something was not clicking. I wondered why in spite of the fact that my rebound relationship was so wonderful, I could not open my heart to him. I struggled to reciprocate the love but that was just the problem. With my ex, I did not need to struggle to love him, It just flowed.
My rebound man became worried about our relationship and complained that I seemed to be punishing him for losing my old boyfriend. I decided to take a hard look at myself to figure out what the problem was. That is when I discovered that I was actually still in love with my ex and missed him badly. In fact our relationship was far from over.
I went ahead and confessed to my rebound guy that I was still in love with my ex. I asked for forgiveness for leading him to believe that it could work between us. Thankfully he was gracious to me. He told me all he wanted was for me to be happy and I told him he deserved happiness too but he could not find it with me as my heart belonged to someone else.
Thus began the journey towards reconciliation with my ex. My ex had been studying my moves during this time and he could tell that my attention was still focused on him even when I was in the rebound relationship. He knew that I was dating some one different because I was missing something in our relationship, so he used the time I was in with the rebound man to improve himself and to find out what I was really looking for.
After being in the rebound relationship for only a month, I started to miss my ex badly because the rebound relationship was nothing like what I had with my ex. My rebound man was a good guy but we simply were not meant for each other.
When I was ready to make a move towards my ex, he was benevolent and welcomed me back graciously. He had apologized for his part in the break up and given me some time to mull over things.
Sure enough, the space he gave me helped me understand who I was and what I really wanted. I was able to realize on my own that he was the love of my life. I was able to choose him of my own free will, consequently, I valued the relationship more after we got back together and he was confident that the love I had for him was genuine.
Therefore if your ex starts dating someone after your break up, she’s in a rebound relationship. You can make up with her and get back together. Don’t despair. The rebound relationship might be a sign that she’s still in love with you.