Are you frustrated with your life? Why is it so hard to live so short? Want to improve it yourself? Below are five tips to quickly improve your life.
- Drop “Small Me”
In “The Power of Your Subconscious Mind,” Dr. Joseph Murphy tells of an incident with the great operatic tenor, Caruso, who had stage fright. He thought about all the negative things that: “They’ll laugh at me. I can’t sing.” He then proceeded to shout in the presence of the people backstage: “The Little Me wants to strangle the Big Me inside me! Come out Little Me, the Big Me wants to sing through me! Come out, come out, the Big Me will sing!”
With this, he successfully banished the fear and self-beating that led to the failure of many people with disabilities. It is this kind of self-denial with the “little me” that drains your confidence and talents. Remember that there is always a “Big Me” and a “Little Me” in everyone. Who do you want to give authority over you?
- Give “Love” to everyone around you
“Love” gives you a feeling of happiness when you are with your loved ones. Why not extend this “love” to everyone you meet? By this I mean to give them the warmth and happiness that you normally give to your loved ones. That way you will feel happy too. It feels like you are providing social services. But the difference is that you don’t have to wait for Saturday and Sunday!
Get out and meet more people
When you have few or no friends, you will more or less beat yourself up when you are alone, especially after you see another group of friends together on the street. Get out, join some activity groups and meet more people! If you feel that you are “unworthy” of knowing more people or that they won’t like having you around, re-read my first point. Your “Little Me” is talking!
Go to social services
To extend my second point, go out and join some social services to help others who are really in need. Remember that no matter how bad your life is, there is always someone who is worse. When you are with them, you will realize that they may not think your situation is bad. They may even envy you in comparison to themselves. This is very important to remember. But I don’t want you to tease them that they are inferior compared to you. I want you to know that everything bad that happened to you is a small incident compared to others.
Don’t say you don’t have money for social services. Social services do not always require money. By helping the Home for the elderly to install equipment that the elderly there cannot do themselves, you are also doing a social service. Remember that what goes around comes around. When you help more people, more people will help you.
- If you feel bad, don’t do it
If someone asked you to do something, how do you feel? Are you happy to accept the assignment? Or do you have something else to complete and it’s adding to your burden? If it makes you feel unhappy, can you say no to it? Maybe your boss has asked you to do a certain task for him/her and you feel you can’t refuse. Ask your boss if the task is more urgent than your task, if not, can you finish the task you currently have and then start his/her new task? If the new task is urgent, request a new deadline for your current task. That way, you have more time and you won’t feel bad because you can’t do both tasks.
If you’re halfway through a task and you’re overcome with frustration because you can’t complete the task, stop! Get up, go out and do something else for a while. Take your mind off the task for a while. Don’t think about it. Listen to soothing music, drink coffee or stretch a bit. When you come back five minutes later, you’ll feel better about continuing the task, not to mention you’ll have a fresher mind!
Life always tries to take control of you when you are overwhelmed with a lot of things. Start taking back control and improve your life. Self-improvement is not difficult, you just need to know ways to improve it. Continue to improve and you will be surprised that one day you will become an inspiration to the people around you!
I wish you all the best.